Enhle Mbali Lists In Detail The Number Of Times DJ Black Coffee Physically Abused Her Over The Years. Enhle Mbali is making sure to leave no stone unturned since revealing the abuse that she endured during her marriage to internationally acclaimed award winning DJ Black Coffee. Gender based violence activists have been showing their full support through Enhle’s battles that seem to be far from over..
Recently, Enhle applied for a protection order against her estranged husband at the Randburg Court for allegedly assaulting her during her 33rd birthday gathering at their Sandton home. This is were the march in solidarity with her was held and many supporters were in attendance. Enhle Mbali has been through a lot with regards to her divorce and the public have made it clear that they are on her side. This has encouraged the actress to further open up about the incidents that have occurred where her then husband had struck her.
After appearing at the court, the mother of two has continued to pour her heart out on social media in a public statement where she really got into detail of the incidents that she was abused by Black Coffee. She began her statement by noting that those that are guilty of such an offence would never be able to admit to it, so we should not expect it from her estranged husband.
She continued to break down her statement form her court appearance that took place yesterday sharing that she feels that it is important that she stand up for herself from the false allegations being made by her husband and also put an end to the cycle of abuse that is driven by bullying and enforcing fear on her to not speak.
“I feel it is paramount for me to not only defend myself against the misrepresentation and counter accusations being made but to also put an end to the cycle of abuse that I have continued to face at his commission. For the most part I have been silent in an effort to amicably resolve these challenges within my marriage as well as to limit the effects of a toxic environment on my growing children. However, as I have grown to realise, the cycle of abuse is ongoing and relentless as it feeds off of fear” she wrote.
She continued to share that she no longer will enable fear to keep her silent, and her new attitude has given her the confidence to fearlessly count the forms of abuse and the amount of times she has been beaten by the DJ during their marriage. This then resulted in her having to seek medical and professional help because of depression.
“I am no longer fearful, and it is with this renewed sense of self that I wish to recount the numerous incidents on which he has beaten, berated, rendered me broken and unworthy. I have within the marriage and now as an estranged spouse endured gaslighting, emotional, verbal abuse, physical abuse and financial abuse at his behest. The extent of the turmoil experienced in the marriage as a result of the abuse and the extra marital affairs were so severe that I was admitted into a facility and was treated for depression” she wrote.
Upon listing the details of when the incidents occurred over a period of 5 years, the actress revealed that her children unfortunately were present when the regrettable altercations happened. The separate incidents amounted to a total of 3 times including her dinner party, which motivated her to apply for a protection order.
” In 2014 at our previous residence, he struck me several times in our bedroom. In 2019 after his Music is King event at our new residence, he threw a bag at my face during an argument. Guests at my 33rd birthday celebration witnessed him attack me Since the beginning of our divorce proceedings, he has continually used intimidation and financial muscle in an attempt silence me” she wrote.
Ina follow up comment, the actress expressed her disappointment that matters couldn’t be resolved in private but as a mother of boy children, she finds it imperative that she teaches them how to treat women and also to empower others to speak up about their ordeals.
“It is my sole wish to ensure that by me speaking out about my experience amongst so many other voices that a more determined and unbiased approach to the resolution of the scourge of Gender Based Violence is adopted an implemented. As a mother to boy children, I make it my mission to model positive behaviours and ensure my children are informed about issues such as GBV, the importance of consent, respect for individuals and that they are open minded individuals who communicate and express their feelings in a positive manner” she wrote