Former Izingane Zes’thembu reality TV star and influencer Vuyokazi Nciweni is embracing single motherhood with courage and grace. More than a year after her breakup with Mpumelelo Mseleku — the father of her two children and son of well-known polygamist Musa Mseleku — Vuyokazi is focused on healing, motherhood, and building a better life for her kids.
Speaking to BabyYumYum.com, Vuyokazi shared what life has been like since walking away from her relationship and raising her children with the help of her family. “I’m not complaining about parenthood at all, because I’ve got a lot of support. My parents and aunt help me with my kids, which makes everything easier. My kids are happy, I’m happy, and right now, motherhood feels perfect,” she said.
Despite the challenges, Vuyokazi revealed that she’s raising her children without any help from their father. “I’ll say this: there’s no co-parenting, no allowance, no involvement. It’s just me and my parents raising my kids,” she admitted.
Her parents have been her biggest source of strength, offering love, stability, and financial support when she needs it most. “My parents are incredible. They support me financially when I struggle, they buy things for the kids, and they adore them. My mom even posts them daily on WhatsApp. Their love gives my kids so much stability,” she said warmly.
For Vuyokazi, being a single mother has required balance, prayer, and emotional strength. “Firstly, I just want to clarify that I’m not co-parenting. It’s literally just me, and I do everything alone. My kids depend on me and my parents; there’s no father in the picture,” she emphasized. “Prayer keeps me going. On bad days, I remind myself it’s temporary.”
Looking back on her breakup, she admitted the healing process was not easy. “It wasn’t easy. My mom supported me a lot; sometimes she even cried with me. I was depressed, but I made sure my kids didn’t see me broken. I smiled, played, and took them out. At night, I cried alone. I even created YouTube content with them to keep myself focused on them instead of the negativity,” she shared.
Vuyokazi said she has learned to put herself and her children first. “I’ve learned to always choose myself and think of my kids first. What happened last year was a big wake-up call. I realised I needed to protect myself and my children when making decisions, especially about partners,” she explained.
Her views on love and relationships have also changed. “My kids have nothing to do with my love life, and no man will come near them. My parents don’t want any man around my kids unless it’s a husband one day,” she said firmly. “Last year, I made a bad choice and learned my lesson. My priority is protecting my children.”
One of her proudest moments as a single mother was planning her daughter’s first birthday on her own. “Achieving things I thought I couldn’t, like planning my daughter’s first birthday party all by myself. Seeing her happy made me realise I don’t need to beg anyone for help,” she said.
Vuyokazi also hopes her story inspires other women to walk away from toxic relationships. “Don’t stay in relationships that break you mentally. Take your kids and leave. Life has so much to offer, and you’re not losing anything if you walk away from someone who doesn’t care,” she advised.
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