When your husband was just your boyfriend and 
you were eager to impress him, you spent hours debating what to wear for a date. You simply wanted to look your best and nothing less would do. And when he appreciated the effort and complimented you, it was well worth it. 
Many women complain that after settling into married life, their husbands don’t compliment them or they don’t get the same attention they received when they were courting. But did you ever stop and think whether you pay the same attention to detail that you did when you were dating? Women often get caught up with juggling household responsibilities and a career and often, dressing to get their husband’s approval doesn’t really figure very high on their list of priorities. Retaining your allure for your partner and continuing to be attractive to him isn’t only about your physical appearance. It goes beyond that.
- Don’t get complacent: It is important not to get too laid back and lounge around all day in pajamas or a nightie have an unkempt look. That doesn’t mean you have to perform household duties looking like a glam doll. Before you get caught up with the chores of the day or sprucing up the house, take some time to freshen up and make yourself feel good. If you’re a stay-at-home mom, don’t greet your husband, when he comes home, with your youngest kid’s spit-up decorating your blouse. Take the time to shower and look fresh for him when he comes home to you.
- Ask for his opinion: When you’re buying an outfit or debating on what to wear, get his take on it. Let him know you value his opinion and would like to wear something that pleases him. Pander to his taste and cater to his little fancies, at least once in a while, and he will reward you with an admiring glance and an approving smile.
- Maintain yourself: If you can, follow some kind of a fitness regime. It doesn’t have to be rigorous exercise, or if you can’t make the time for it, even the gym. Try and carve out at least 20-30 minutes for a brisk walk that will rejuvenate your senses and keep you in shape. You don’t have to look the way you did when you married him, he won’t mind a little more of you to love, but you can try and ensure you don’t just let yourself go. If you can’t make the time to exercise, try and maintain a healthy diet and cut back on a few calories. Maintaining yourself physically also contributes to your mental health, sense of self-esteem and even to a more active sex life, which is equally important in a good marriage.
- Buy something just for him: Occasionally buy a sexy negligee or a frothy bit of lingerie and let him know you did it with him in mind. You can also find things like ring gags on Etsy if you want to spice things up in the bedroom a little bit. Experimenting with ring gags and other toys is a great way to keep your relationship fresh and a way to find out each other’s likes and dislikes. It will serve the dual purpose of stimulating his visual (and other) senses and make him happy knowing you did it just for him. You could also buy him a toy, like a prostate massager, for the bedroom too. Not only will he be thankful for the gift, but he can also be pleasured too.
- Take care of your appearance: Spend a little time – and money – on taking care of your appearance. We’re not talking cosmetic surgery here although if you’re unhappy with the way your body looks go ahead! Procedures like CoolSculpting are growing in popularity so if this sounds like something you’d be interested in, why not find out if CoolSculpting really hurts, or if it’s just a myth? It’s best to learn a bit about the procedure before you sign up for anything! You could even do a little pampering or get a beauty treatment. Shape your eyebrows or get a facial, a French manicure or a bikini line wax (or even a Brazilian one if you’re feeling adventurous). Something that’s becoming increasingly popular is laser hair removal treatment which is great for eliminating unwanted thick coarse hair from the body. Don’t feel guilty for spending on yourself occasionally and that you have to justify it. Feeling good about yourself and having your husband’s full attention on you is reason enough!
- Make the first move: Don’t always wait for him to initiate sex. Tease and tantalize him and make the first move every little while. Your partner is probably preoccupied with boardroom tactics so it’s about time you took over the bedroom maneuvers.
- Share interests: Instead of nagging him endlessly about tinkering around with electrical gadgets or wondering what is so fascinating about that dumb soccer match – join him in his fun. Show an interest in things that fascinate him, so that he wants to share them with you and doesn’t have to feel guilty about his passions, but can enjoy them with unadulterated pleasure. Quite often, when it comes to their passions, men are little boys in big bodies. And just like kids, they have to be given a little attention and should be pandered to occasionally.
- Find humor/ laugh together: Laughter, as always, keeps a relationship alive. If a woman has the ability to find humor in everyday situations and can share a few laughs with her partner, it goes a long way towards retaining the spark in a relationship and increasing her allure to her partner.
- His happiness is important: When a woman indicates to her husband that his happiness is of paramount importance to her, it makes him feel very lucky to have her in his life. Having a surprise party on his birthday, cooking his favorite meals, buying him tickets to his favorite rock show, or even buying a gift for his mother (even if you don’t get along) because his happiness is what matters to you, only serves to make a woman more attractive to her husband.
- Show that you care: Every single day, in some small way, show your husband just how much he means to you. Tell him you love him, when he’s sick, take care of him like a little child, pack his lunchbox, hug him often and kiss him like you can’t get enough. Knowing that and feeling like he’s the object of your affection will make him feel like a king and want to always have you as his queen
