Melanie Bala Shares Her Grieving Experience In A Tribute To Her Late Brother. The loss of a loved one is one of the hardest thing for anyone to experience, no matter how long ago it was. Radio and TV personality Melanie Bala has experienced the devastating loss of an immediate family member of which she still mourns even today.
Taking to Instagram in a lengthy post, Bala paid tribute to her late older brother who passed 16 years ago at the age of 35. Melanie’s brother died of cancer after developing some swelling around his neck, which they misdiagnosed as mumps.
The swelling got worse and he was taken to the hospital to undergo surgery. Following the surgery he was sadly diagnosed with Lung cancer which unfortunately had reached its last stage. Melanie remembered her brother on the anniversary of his death in a post opening up about how it changed her perspective about death, and how to dealt with it.
“Today is 16 years since my brother died. A few weeks ago someone sent me this pic, out of the blue ?His passing fundamentally shifted how I viewed grief, and the world. Before that, I’d dealt with death before but embarrassingly to say, almost on a superficial level. Never before having experienced a loss that close, I didn’t truly understand how it affects you. Blame it on youth and ignorance. Since his passing, two things have happened: 1. I’m incredibly mindful when dealing with someone who is going through their own grief journey. It can be hard & uncomfortable to sit with someone who is dealing with grief but it must be done. To see them, to hear them, to let them be in their sadness and anger and silence and rage. To let them talk about it and the person they’ve lost. Grief and loss can fundamentally change how you view the world – in either a good way or a bad way. The choice is yours. I want to let you know that if you’ve lost someone and it feels like there is no way through – there is. There absolutely is. Be gentle with yourself.” she wrote
The wellness coach also shared how her brother passing taught her to be more understanding of other peoples’s journey’s and to also enjoy every moment of life.
“2. My brother was only 35 when he passed. Too young. I thought we had a lifetime together still. Since his passing I live every moment, in the moment. Appreciating where I am, who I’m with, what we’re doing, the feeling and energy in that moment. I’m slow to anger and quick to forgive. I have a deep seated awareness of the fragility of this thing we call life, and gratitude for all of it.” she added.
