Reality TV star and businesswoman Happy Simelane has opened up once again about the pain of losing her husband, Julius Mduduzi Simelane, in a tragic car accident. Known for her role on The Mommy Club, Happy shared an emotional message on Instagram, marking three years since the heartbreaking day her life changed forever.
“Exactly today 3 years ago my world crashed into pieces when I was told about your sudden departure due to a horrible car crash… I screamed my lungs out, a part of me died, I’ve never been the same ever since,” she wrote. “You completed my heart and our home. As strong as I might seem, life hasn’t been easy without my husband. I miss him daily, his absence is felt deeply. May his soul continue resting in peace, Mr Simelane @juliusmduduzi.”
Happy’s husband passed away on 14 June 2022 in a car crash—alongside another woman, who was later revealed to be his mistress. What made her grief even harder was the shock of learning about his affair at the same time as his death.
In Season 1 of The Mommy Club on Showmax, viewers watched Happy speak about this traumatic experience during a therapy session. When asked what her “burning issue” was, she replied: “His death, betrayal. I don’t know whether I’m still in the denial stage. I keep on running away from the pain.”
She admitted that the pain became so unbearable that she had thoughts of ending her life. “If the pain hits, I just want to take my life. I just want to end everything, that’s just me,” she said. “I couldn’t see my life without him.”
Her therapist gently reminded her that life sometimes brings painful experiences to help us grow stronger. “These situations are building our character,” the therapist said. “You didn’t know that today you’d be able to stand on your two feet, to go back to work, to support your children, and do the things you need to do.”
Happy agreed, but said her healing journey has been far from easy. “I didn’t just mourn him,” she said, “but the betrayal that came with it. I had so many questions.”
She explained that there were no signs that her husband was cheating, and she never suspected he had another relationship. What hurts the most is not being able to get the answers she desperately needs. “When you’re being cheated on, you want answers. In my case, there’s no one to answer me.”
In therapy, she admitted she had been directing most of her anger at the other woman. “In this instance, yes, I blame her,” she said. “When he passed on, the scandals came out.”
The therapist encouraged her to process the betrayal and understand that healing would come from addressing the pain, not avoiding it. Today, Happy continues to work through her grief while raising her children and building her strength, one day at a time.
