Beverley Steyn Opens Up About Pain, Healing, and Finding Self-Worth

Businesswoman and reality TV star Beverley Steyn has shared her personal story like never before — speaking openly about failed marriages, a difficult childhood, and the journey to healing. In an emotional interview on Showmax’s Untied, Beverley, known for her appearances on The Real Housewives franchise, revealed why telling her truth was so important.

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“I believe that our stories have power, especially the ones we’ve survived. I wanted to share mine to show that even in the most difficult seasons, there’s hope, there’s resilience, and there’s life beyond the pain. If my openness can help just one woman feel less alone, it’s worth it,” she told host Relebogile Mabotja.

For Beverley, her message centres on self-worth and resilience. “I want women to know that their worth is not defined by what they’ve been through or who they’ve loved. You can lose a relationship without losing yourself. Healing is possible and joy is still yours to claim,” she explained.

If she could go back in time, Beverley says she would give her younger self some firm advice: “Protect your peace, trust your instincts, and don’t be afraid to walk away from anything that dims your light. You’re stronger than you think, and you’ll be okay, even when it doesn’t feel like it.”

Speaking her truth has been both healing and empowering for her. “It’s been about removing the weight of secrecy and shame, but also reclaiming my story from speculation and telling it in my own words, from my own heart.”

However, living through personal struggles in the public eye has been one of her toughest challenges. “It’s the lack of privacy, having your most vulnerable moments dissected by people who weren’t there. You learn to develop a thick skin while still protecting your soft heart,” she said.

Her divorces have also changed the way she views love and relationships. “Love begins with self-love. Relationships should add to your life, not consume it. Setting boundaries isn’t pushing people away, it’s protecting what’s important.”

Today, healing feels lighter for Beverley. “It’s laughter without guilt, mornings without heaviness, and the ability to look forward. At first, healing was survival; now it’s freedom.”

On her friendship with Nonku Williams, Beverley said: “Our relationship is layered and complex; we’ve had closeness and distance, but I try to approach it with honesty, respect and boundaries.”

She admitted that public comments from Jojo and Sorisha about that friendship were upsetting. “It was disappointing. Private dynamics should be spoken about directly, not through public commentary.”

For Beverley, happiness now has a new meaning. “Peace of mind, people who genuinely care, and the freedom to be myself without apology. Before, I chased perfection; now, I choose authenticity.”